When someone has wronged us, in our process of forgiving them, we also relinquish the outcome of our forgiveness. We relinquish and abandon the way we think and feel about how everything should turn out. We give it up to God. And we relinquish and abandon our anger, resentment, revenge, gossip, pride, retaliation, prejudice, unkindness, and self-pity. We lay our weapons down. Forgiveness says: “God, I forgive this person unconditionally. I relinquish the outcome to you. Whatever happens in the future, I’ll let
Letting go of past hurts can be difficult. Yet in forgiving others, the time comes to act: Making a decision to obey Christ. Putting all our anger and resentment behind us. Forgiving the offender. Leaving the offense in the past. Forgiveness is not based upon whether the person deserves forgiveness. It is based on what Christ has done to forgive us. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord
In forgiving others, we acknowledge our pain. Admit our anger or resentment. Accept our responsibility. Then ask for forgiveness. We say some of the ten hardest words in the English language: “I am sorry. I was wrong. Will you forgive me?” We don’t defend ourselves or blame the other person. Rather, we take responsibility for what we said or did, or what we should have said or done, and ask for forgiveness. “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for
Jesus taught us to pray, “Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors” (Matthew 6:12). In forgiving others, we acknowledge before God that we are experiencing the pain and hurt done to us. We admit that we are angry toward or resent the ones who wounded us. We also stop blaming others and accept responsibility for our own attitude and behavior. What happens when we play some sport, and we play poorly and lose? Or we work on some project
In forgiving others, after we have acknowledged the pain and hurt done to us, we then admit that we are angry toward or resent the person who wounded us. When wounded, we react to protect ourselves. Sometimes we lash out in a fit of anger. Sometimes we withdraw behind a wall of resentment. Sometimes we do both. We admit that we are unlike Jesus. “When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats.